Anxiety is a very powerful driving force seeded in your subconscious that helps create the filter that you see the world through. Everyone has a certain level of anxiety, but it tends to manifest in different ways in relation to different people and different circumstances. It is the mental construct that tends to guide the rules that you progressively make for yourself throughout life in order to calm your own worries. Everyone is going to have a different set of worries based partly on their childhood experiences, their genetics, their history of trauma and their current living situation.
Worry can creep into all facets of your life whether you realize it or not. It is an uncomfortable feeling that you will try to avoid if you can, but that process can very easily become a viscous cycle leading to more stress and discomfort for you and those around you. I have found that the more anxious a person is, the more rigid their rules become for themselves and by extension, for those around them. Creating rules, verbalized or not, is a means for a person to control their environment in order to calm their own worry and/or prevent the uncomfortable feeling of anxiety. Perceived lack of control in any situation is a source of stress for many people and can create both mental and physical tension in a person’s body.
There is a difference between reality and perception, they are both important, but accepting that they are different is both challenging and vital for overly anxious people. By reality I mean the objective truth in any given situation and by perception I mean one person’s subjective interpretation of that situation. Everyone develops their own triggers and filters that will impact how they perceive a certain event or discussion; some people just have way more triggers than others which can make their perception of a situation deviate radically from the objective reality and/or the other person’s perception. Read More
I am a physical therapist by training, but have become a psychologist by experience. Working with people from 9 to 90 years old and from the peak of athletic performance to the lows of neural rehab, I have come to see pain, emotion, attitude and perception in a new light. I have seen 250 pound rugby players squirm at the thought of a needle and polite 70 year old English ladies drop F-bombs while I loosen their hip. I have seen confident CEOs get lost in pain and happy go lucky blue collar workers shift into deep depressions after car accidents and battles with insurance companies. Chronic pain can have many sources and only some of them are physical; unfortunately it is usually only the physical issues that get addressed and the people that could use some help cognitively are the least likely ones to pursue that type of care.
This website is geared toward helping you with the physical side of pain, posture, prevention and performance, but to get the most out of it you will need to be mentally open to change in your body. I have created a page on the right side bar called Books to Read that recommends books that I have found particularly helpful. Here they are again for you:
The following are books that I have read and found very useful in my life. To understand your body and your pain you first need to understand yourself and make sense of your life; this is a missing element in many people that suffer from chronic pain. Most people are open to seeking physical therapy for their pain issues, but much more reluctant to seek any cognitive therapy. I recommend the following books to help you:
- Understand why you think the way you think
- The basics of how your brain works
- The roots of your relationship with your family
- The role of work in your life
- The role of money in your life
- What motivates you
- How pain can affect you
- How to get the most out of life without sacrificing a piece of yourself
Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation
- A fascinating book written for the lay person about how your brain works as it relates to your personality, your relationships and your pain. Highly recommend it. Click on the picture to learn more about it.
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